grow up and get married
Mar. 29th, 2022 07:56 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
spacefemthe top post on r/mademesmile is this wedding entrance video thing, where we see a re-enactment of a woman being born, being a little kid, going to school, then she's a bride and the shadow curtain lifts and mom walks her down the aisle. all the top comments love it, so I guess I should too? but it weirds me out for some reason.
I've been to weddings where the tables were decorated with photos of the bride and/or groom as children, and to weddings with slideshows of them growing up so we could see their whole lives, and that also weirds me out. I love weddings, I'm a married person who had a great wedding, but I'm struggling to put into words what's wrong with the kid photos. it's almost like saying "we WERE kids, and now we are GROWN UP see because we've made it to the WEDDING part! Achievement unlocked!"
I had childhood photos of me at my high school graduation party so relatives could all tell me I grew up too fast... but at a wedding? a wedding is a thing you do, not a milestone like graduation. it's not a sign that you've grown up! I've known people who got married at 19 and people who got married at 60... it's totally unrelated to age, right? I also know some fantastic grownups who never got married, and some married people who act like children.
I'm not usually this cynical I promise! there's lots to celebrate at a wedding! family, friends, love, dancing, free cake... you talk about the couple and how they're going to be great for each other. I just didn't want photos of me slowly getting things in life... first steps, skinned knees, learning to read, GETTING A MAN.
I've been to weddings where the tables were decorated with photos of the bride and/or groom as children, and to weddings with slideshows of them growing up so we could see their whole lives, and that also weirds me out. I love weddings, I'm a married person who had a great wedding, but I'm struggling to put into words what's wrong with the kid photos. it's almost like saying "we WERE kids, and now we are GROWN UP see because we've made it to the WEDDING part! Achievement unlocked!"
I had childhood photos of me at my high school graduation party so relatives could all tell me I grew up too fast... but at a wedding? a wedding is a thing you do, not a milestone like graduation. it's not a sign that you've grown up! I've known people who got married at 19 and people who got married at 60... it's totally unrelated to age, right? I also know some fantastic grownups who never got married, and some married people who act like children.
I'm not usually this cynical I promise! there's lots to celebrate at a wedding! family, friends, love, dancing, free cake... you talk about the couple and how they're going to be great for each other. I just didn't want photos of me slowly getting things in life... first steps, skinned knees, learning to read, GETTING A MAN.
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Date: 2022-03-30 03:06 pm (UTC)The video is actually kind of cute and clever (I didn't have my sound on - so not commenting on song). But yeah - not something I'd want to do for myself. I also don't see my wedding day as the happiest day of my life which stumps folks. Yes, of course, happy day, but not THE happiest day. My thesis defense was the top on my list.