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Two Women Living Together: The Bestselling Korean Memoir
Kim Hana, Kim Sunwoo, Gene Png (translator)
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The big-hearted, bestselling South Korean memoir co-written by two best friends flouting gender norms and societal expectations with their decision to grow old together under one roof.

When most of their peers were moving in with romantic partners and having children, Kim Hana and Hwang Sunwoo chose independence—savoring solitude, quiet mornings, and the unmitigated freedom of living alone. But in their forties, something shifted, and they were met with a new, unexpected loneliness. Refusing to settle for the outdated choice between marriage or isolation, Hana and Sunwoo made a radical decision: to buy a home and live together—not as lovers, not as roommates, but as chosen family.

Now a bustling household of two women and four cats, Hana and Sunwoo still value solitude, but can do so while sharing a life and its meaning with someone else. Together they navigate the challenges and comforts of cohabiting in midlife, the growing pains of interdependence and the unexpected rewards of compromise when you’ve grown set in your ways. From sick days to career wins to aging parents and beach-side retirement plans, they are redefining domestic bliss on their own terms, where love, partnership, and home are defined not by tradition, but by choice.

With warmth, wit, and sharp social insight, Hana and Sunwoo share their blueprint for building a life outside the scripts of marriage and society’s expectations for women. Two Women Living Together is a quiet revolution—a celebration of female friendship, community, and the many forms that love and family can take.


I was in a reading slump and then saw this book - sort of resonated with what I had been thinking about, so gave it a go.

This book is comprised of (almost) alternating essays, Hana’s and Sunwoo’s point of views.

I really enjoyed the sometimes self-deprecating parts of the essays (both authors). I kind of think I’m like Sunwoo, a little bit messy, but I’m also a bit like Hana, “tools have their own place.”

I wonder if further along the way, will I find a nice housemate or will I be living alone?