Miss Trunchbull
Aug. 3rd, 2024 09:24 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
spacefemI saw "Matilda: The Musical" for the first time this week, I was excited to see one of my favorite all time books come to life on stage and it was amazing. But this quote by Miss Trunchbull made me think:
"In this world, children, there are two types of human being. The winners and the losers. I am a winner. I play by the rules and I win. But if I play by the rules and I... do not win, then something is wrong, something is not working. And when something is wrong you have to put it right. Even if it screams."
I see people raising kids this way, sadly enough. When I read stories about cults and religious abuse, it's a theme. If you follow THE RULES God favors you. If God hasn't favored you, it's because you've done something wrong and you need MORE RULES and discipline. You're a bad person. There are Two Types Of People. If you're rich, it's because you work hard and fear God. If you're poor, you are lazy. There are geniuses, and people who need to stay out of their way and quit holding the geniuses back, questioning their authority, and asking them to pay taxes. There are moral beacons of authority, and there are lawless criminals who need to be locked up and punished so they follow the rules. Did you sleep on a park bench because you were homeless? That's against the rules. Why aren't you working! You should be in jail, or forced to leave. You got yourself into this situation.
At some point in my early 20s, I started realizing that there's some serious luck and birthright involved in who's rich, who's poor, who went to college, who went to prison. I realized there aren't two types of people, there's basically one type of person, and we're all kind of trying our best. If we create a system that helps people out, we might all thrive, because you never can predict who's going to do great things in the world. If we create a system focused on finding the bad people and punishing them, we're missing the point. You can blame all your problems on criminals, but then when the blame starts you don't know where to stop, who else isn't following your rules? You slide from thieves to drug addicts to undocumented immigrants, gays, atheists... because you lose a scale, you're so busy trying to figure out who is squarely in your bad category and screwing everything up for all of us, and you definitely can't look in the mirror anymore, you forgot how. In your perfect categories, you tell your children that religious leaders are infallible and drag queens are dangerous and you ignore all evidence to the contrary.
So I decided to do the opposite of all of that, be thankful for what the world has given me, because it was luck, and I can help other people have the same opportunities because I was helped. I wasn't a magic Good Person. How else can we say it? Well... I didn't just fall out of a coconut tree!
"In this world, children, there are two types of human being. The winners and the losers. I am a winner. I play by the rules and I win. But if I play by the rules and I... do not win, then something is wrong, something is not working. And when something is wrong you have to put it right. Even if it screams."
I see people raising kids this way, sadly enough. When I read stories about cults and religious abuse, it's a theme. If you follow THE RULES God favors you. If God hasn't favored you, it's because you've done something wrong and you need MORE RULES and discipline. You're a bad person. There are Two Types Of People. If you're rich, it's because you work hard and fear God. If you're poor, you are lazy. There are geniuses, and people who need to stay out of their way and quit holding the geniuses back, questioning their authority, and asking them to pay taxes. There are moral beacons of authority, and there are lawless criminals who need to be locked up and punished so they follow the rules. Did you sleep on a park bench because you were homeless? That's against the rules. Why aren't you working! You should be in jail, or forced to leave. You got yourself into this situation.
At some point in my early 20s, I started realizing that there's some serious luck and birthright involved in who's rich, who's poor, who went to college, who went to prison. I realized there aren't two types of people, there's basically one type of person, and we're all kind of trying our best. If we create a system that helps people out, we might all thrive, because you never can predict who's going to do great things in the world. If we create a system focused on finding the bad people and punishing them, we're missing the point. You can blame all your problems on criminals, but then when the blame starts you don't know where to stop, who else isn't following your rules? You slide from thieves to drug addicts to undocumented immigrants, gays, atheists... because you lose a scale, you're so busy trying to figure out who is squarely in your bad category and screwing everything up for all of us, and you definitely can't look in the mirror anymore, you forgot how. In your perfect categories, you tell your children that religious leaders are infallible and drag queens are dangerous and you ignore all evidence to the contrary.
So I decided to do the opposite of all of that, be thankful for what the world has given me, because it was luck, and I can help other people have the same opportunities because I was helped. I wasn't a magic Good Person. How else can we say it? Well... I didn't just fall out of a coconut tree!
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Date: 2024-08-04 12:45 am (UTC)