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describing the game
Apr. 21st, 2022 06:13 amI ran across this tumblr: To my friends on the spectrum, let me explain to you an unspoken social rule that possibly nobody has ever explained to you before
If a neurotypical asks you, “What game are you playing?” they’re not asking you to describe the game.
They’re asking you if they can play too.
If a neurotypical asks you, “What are you watching?” they’re not asking you to explain the plot of the movie/tv show to them.
They’re asking if they can watch it with you.
Reading this quote made me realize something... when I ask my husband what he's watching, I am definitely either wanting to watch it with him, or wanting just enough information to decide if I want to watch it with him. But it's weird, right? An odd way to pose the question, because I could just say "is this something I should watch with you?" maybe? but then again how would he know.
He is definitely an "explain the show" guy. he will tell me way too much. then it gets worse, if I sit down to watch the show he'll start giving me backstory on EVERY character, every previous episode on the season, and I just want to watch the show. kind of like a board game, I don't want instructions I just want to sit down and play the game and figure it out from the middle.
I'm not sure where this sits on the personality type or if it's really a neurotypical vs. neurodivergent thing... because when I think about it both responses make SENSE. I just know how I am.
If a neurotypical asks you, “What game are you playing?” they’re not asking you to describe the game.
They’re asking you if they can play too.
If a neurotypical asks you, “What are you watching?” they’re not asking you to explain the plot of the movie/tv show to them.
They’re asking if they can watch it with you.
Reading this quote made me realize something... when I ask my husband what he's watching, I am definitely either wanting to watch it with him, or wanting just enough information to decide if I want to watch it with him. But it's weird, right? An odd way to pose the question, because I could just say "is this something I should watch with you?" maybe? but then again how would he know.
He is definitely an "explain the show" guy. he will tell me way too much. then it gets worse, if I sit down to watch the show he'll start giving me backstory on EVERY character, every previous episode on the season, and I just want to watch the show. kind of like a board game, I don't want instructions I just want to sit down and play the game and figure it out from the middle.
I'm not sure where this sits on the personality type or if it's really a neurotypical vs. neurodivergent thing... because when I think about it both responses make SENSE. I just know how I am.